Entering into a short-term relationship without obligations is easy, while building a long-term stable relationship is much harder. You may have problems stretching from the past, as well as childhood fears and problems in the present, which will weaken the contact with the chosen one. If you have already met your loved one, try to work through the problems together. And for those who have not yet found love, we will help you.
He will break my heart
Once you have experienced a breakup with your lover, you will become more careful – it is understandable and normal. However, it is important to look at the situation realistically and understand that a couple of failed novels do not mean that you will never meet your person. Do not be afraid to experience negative emotions, because life cannot consist of one positive thing. It is better to study your chosen one more attentively and read the dangerous signals that indicate his unstable psyche, which will lead to a scandalous breakup. A break-up with an adequate person will not bring you so much pain, because the break-up, if it happens, will happen after a frank conversation in a calm tone and a joint decision on how to live.
If you carry a negative experience from past relationships, make a study on such issues:
- What important decisions have I made in this relationship?
- Did I tolerate anything that annoyed or hurt me in order to maintain the relationship?
- Have I been hysterical or provoked by quarrels to draw the man’s attention to myself?
- Did I hide my true feelings to be comfortable with my partner?
- Having answered “yes” to at least one question, you need to work through the topic yourself or consult a psychologist.
I don’t want to get used to it
The more often and for longer you communicate with a person, the more close you become to each other. Many girls are afraid to fall in love with a guy until they see the first steps from him – it seems to them that the man goes out with them only waiting for intimacy. If you really think so, you should work with self-esteem. Men are exactly the same people who are afraid of being rejected by a person they like, but they can’t always open up quickly, although they hide behind a mask of a self-assured “male”, and carefully enter into close contact with the ladies they are really interested in. Go towards a man with an open heart and get the same emotions from him – value the moment, not the prospect of a successful marriage.